I Offer Counselling and Therapy for Individuals and Couples Suffering Emotional Pain
I help people who are hurting. I help them to unpack, understand and learn how to manage the feelings and emotions they are experiencing so they can feel a sense of ease and peace.
I provide a space where my clients can heal whatever it is that stops them from enjoying life, from connecting with others; a space where they can breathe, where they can experience being deeply heard.
I Help People Understand and Manage Their Emotions
Emotional pain takes many forms –anxiety, fear, sadness, grief, frustration, anger, confusion, emptiness, aloneness.
Emotions can impact how we think, they can influence the things we do or don’t do in life.
Emotions can effect our health. Our physical body can suffer. Our mind can suffer.
Emotions can change our perspective, how we see things, how we react to what happens to us, it can impact the deep decisions we make about life.
Emotional pain can control our relationships, including how we feel about ourselves and how we relate with others and with the world.
Often our emotional world may not make sense. We don’t understand why we feel the things we feel. And we don’t know how to manage the pain and confusion of our feelings. It just hurts inside!
Transforming Emotional Pain through Self-Compassion
Knowing how to care for our emotional pain is a natural part of emotional health and emotional development.
Sadly, in today's world we are often taught that only 'positive' feelings are ok and all other feelings are undesirable, even unacceptable. We then feel wrong or weak for having feelings that are not positive, and we may try to ignore or hide them.
Sometimes the feelings and emotions can seem to take us over:
We might freeze up or start crying in situations where we feel it may not be appropriate, such as our work environment;
We might snap, criticize, complain about or blame the people around us, especially those in our intimate circle;
We may withdraw, stop communicating, isolate ourselves;
Or we may tell ourselves that our feelings don’t matter, we put on the 'happy mask' and pretend to be something we are not.
Caring for our emotions begins with turning toward our pain or hurt or anger with the same compassion, acceptance and loving-kindness that we use when we turn toward a friend who may be in emotional distress. This is self-compassion and it helps us to listen to our heart and soul. It helps us to connect to our deeper self and care for ourselves when we are in pain emotionally.
As your counsellor and therapist, I listen deeply. I create an emotionally safe place for you to express, make sense of, and learn to care for your emotional pain. I help you begin to feel a sense of calm, to be able to manage your emotional life with compassion for yourself.